Don't Be So Hard On Yourself #coaching

This month in my coaching segment, I wanted to bring it back to your core and remind you of something.

 

There will always be critics out there doing the job for you, so why be so hard on yourself?

Stop with the I can'ts, What If's, I should have's and GO DO. If it fails, big whoop.
Try something else.

The point is you not beat yourself up about it. There will be times of failure. Times of loss. Times where you want to absolutely throw in the towel.

But why?

Why give up on a dream, on something that you started for a reason? Just because you failed the first time?

If I had given up on being an artist when I was told that I needed reference for every single tree/flower/animal/etc. that I drew, I wouldn't have graduated with a Fine Arts degree. I would probably have gone to teachers college like the original plan was, and been teaching {or trying to get a job teaching} history to high school students.

If I had given up when I was told that my work was reminiscent of a child's finger paintings, I wouldn't have gone on to complete a body of work worthy of being shown in a gallery in Toronto. I would probably still be looking for that teaching job!

So if you fail...it's fine. Water under the bridge. Don't worry so much about it.

Take a deep breath.
Try another way. Because, really, there always is another way.

Time to Get Started

Are you dragging a little this fall? Lacing motivation and inspiration?

So often with my coaching clients, I find that they feel lost. Some have persona reasons and roadblocks holding them back, others just feel that their inspiration is gone and their passion for their business or blog is dwindling. Some get overwhelmed with deadlines, others feel that they lack focus, and some even are just scared.

Scared of what?

Getting started

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Taking that first step can be scary. I know that when I started Sweet Stella's in 2010, I was terrified. I was on edge already because of my post-partum depression, and then there was the whole putting-my-art-out-there-for-the-world-to-see thing. Total vulnerability.

But, you know what? It made me stronger. Getting started is the hardest step.

I know that it's scary, but if you don't get things started for yourself...who will?

Who will know what's in your heart, and take the steps to develop those passions and make your dreams into a reality?
Who will take the risk?
Who will take that step and get things started?

The power comes from within. Harness it and create your own path!

Finding Your Inner Strength

Consider your roadblocks for a moment. What are the things, people, challenges that stand in your way of being awesome?

For a long time, I was my biggest challenge. I've mentioned before that I've consistently seen myself as an overweight, awkward and unattractive person. It goes way back to how I was treated in elementary and high school, but I've recently come to the realization that I allowed myself to be treated that way.

Then I started to look from within, and I found an inner strength like I had never known before. Each and every single one of us has the power to change our circumstances; to put a stop to being discouraged and start feeling empowered.

One way that I find inner strength is by meditating every night before I go to bed. I scroll through my list of podcasts on my iPhone and find what I need in that moment. If I've had an exceptionally trying day as a mom, I may need a meditation for patience. If I am feeling angry at someone or something, then it's a meditation for peace or meditation for anger management.

I rest easy, and wake up with a new sense of being. It's a fantastic feeling, and once I've started my day feeling strong from the inside out, I am able to go forth and be awesome.

This is an overtone to all of my coaching packages, and something that I am so proud when I see it in my clients. There is really no greater gift as their coach than to see them crash through their roadblocks with a wrecking ball.